Posts tagged #legacy

Win Their Trust

Some of you are a couple of weeks into another school year. Has the excitement of a new school year already vanished? Are you counting down the days to Thanksgiving break?

Perhaps the answer to the above questions is a resounding “Yes.” If that’s the case, is it fair for me to assume that the reason why you may be feeling a bit dejected is because the students have switched gears on you?

No longer are they the sweet, quiet kids. Now, they are testing you and your limits. Now, the lesson you worked hours and hours on during the weekend creates little to zero engagement with them. To top that off, maybe your calendar is filled with deadlines from administration of paperwork that must be completed ASAP. It’s no wonder, right about now you’re probably feeling down.

I feel your pain. I’ve been there.

Maybe you don’t work in a school environment at all, but you’re experiencing discouragement because your business isn’t taking off the way you envisioned it to.

Trust me. I understand.

Regardless of where you find yourself, allow me to offer you two pieces of advice.

1.     Don’t quit.  Yes, it sounds elementary, but perseverance is a quality we love to claim we have until we find ourselves facing a huge obstacle that reveals to us otherwise. However, any successful person succeeded not because he or she always did the right thing. Rather, it was because he or she stayed committed to their purpose. Countless times they failed, but they always rose back up.
2.     Win Their Trust.  Realize that the people you are trying to influence will not listen to you or give you the time of day, until they are able to trust you. The relationship you have with the people you are serving matters. It matters because it influences the results you are getting and will continue to receive.

In a study conducted by Mensah and Atta (2015), teachers expressed that a supportive relationship with students was one key factor that inspired the students to succeed.  So, continue to get to know your students. Value them. Not just when it’s convenient either.

For those in business, the relationships you build are also vital to your success. Get to know your potential clients. Treat them with respect. Provide them value. Build trust.

Remember, any person will work with you and for you when they trust you, and that the strongest of all relationships is always built on trust.

3 Ways to Win Trust

1.     Do what you say you are going to do.
2.    Your communication both verbal and nonverbal matter.  Choose both words and actions carefully.
3.     Value every single person you are serving, whether they treat you fairly, do the right, or not.

Here’s to you staying Mission Driven and creating a legacy that makes an impact!

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You Matter

“The small choices and decisions we make a hundred times a day add up to determining the kind of world we live in.”—Harold Kushner

Last Tuesday my mom asked me to take her to a birthday party celebrating a friend of hers who had lived with us for a few years during my childhood. She had turned ninety years old. What a milestone!

As I sat at the party, holding my daughter as she slept in my arms, I thought about whether I would live that long, and if I did how would my life be remembered. What would I leave my daughter, family, and people who had the opportunity to meet me with?

Many people don’t struggle with the fact that they will die. Death, after all, is inevitable. Most people, however, do wrestle with the thought of having lived a life that didn’t matter.

There’s not much worse than reaching the end of your life thinking you didn’t make a difference.  For we all desire to be significant. And as one author wrote, we all want to be, “somebody’s somebody.”

How many people, young or old, just want to feel that someone cares about them? How many of us would give more effort at our job knowing that what we do is viewed as important?

We want to know that we matter. We want to hear it. We want people to tweet and instagram it. Sometimes, the recognition we crave though will never come. Does that mean we’re insignificant and don’t matter? Not at all.

We do matter.

You matter. In fact, the choices you make today matter more than you will ever know. What you do today determines the type of world you live in. The power is in you to create an atmosphere that can help or hurt not only yourself, but also others.

You are important. No matter how big or small you think something you do is, you never know what your act of kindness can do for a person and where it can lead them.

The smile you give to a person who’s hurting CAN brighten up his or her day.

The belief you have for a kid who feels they have no hope CAN change their world.

The gift you give to someone CAN make him or her feel like they’re on cloud nine.

The time you spend with your loved ones CAN let them know that they are special.

The love you express CAN make a difference.

Love and being loved is what makes life meaningful. If your heart is filled with love and you’re able to freely share it with others, that’s success. For as Ralph Waldo Emerson once wrote, “To leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition; to know that even one life has breathed easier because you lived—that is to have succeeded.”

What can you do today to let someone else know that they matter too? Share with me in the comments below.

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A.C. Cristales is a motivational youth speaker, leadership consultant, and author.  He has been working with students, educators, parents and youth workers for more than 15 years. 

Posted on October 24, 2014 and filed under Blogs.